2 1/2 YRS ago My husbands ex signed her custody over to her parents, which was in the best interest of the children. We get the children every weekend, except the second weekend of the month, that is her time. My husband pays the child support, while she has no responsibility to support the children. We want to get custody of the children. We want to know what we can do to keep the visitation the same for the mother, she has drug problems and We are afraid as well as her parents if she gets more visitation that the children will be put in danger, the youngest child was born with cocaine in his system. Also I want to now what we can do about her phone calls UNTIL we get custody. Since she doesn't have custody of the children she feels she needs to call us everyday just to harass us, she never calls to talk to the children or about them, we have threaten a restraining order, and not answered the phone, but she still calls, she said she has every right to call us because my husband is the father of her children. We understand that but it is never about the children it is always about how shitty her life is, she also gives our number to others to harass us we have had to change our number 4 times, the last time we changed the number she contacted Sprint and told them if they didn't give her the number and something happens to the children she would Sue Sprint. SHE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE CUSTODY OF THE CHILDREN . We are also afraid that if we get custody that she will show up at our home anytime she wants to harass us more, We know we can't keep the children away from their mother, but we are afraid that children are in danger. So what are we to do? Until we get custody shouldn't she also be paying child support to her parents, and if so how do we get that started, or is that her parents decision?

How is a father to survive?

I'm a father of 3. I recently went to a CS RP and one of my children's mother, starting the first of January well be receiving 687.41 a month for my son. They never took into consideration that I had two other children to support with another child support order and that for an unforeseen reason I also owe back child support on this one child. I'm not a dead beat dad I do my part for all my children, school clothes, guitar lessons, dance lesson etc. but after this new order goes into effect I will be paying 1495.13 a month only leaving me with 831.00 a month to live on. In most states I'm only above the poverty level by 31.00 a month. I'm not sure what Texas poverty level is. But in order for me to survive and not go in the red it means I will have to get rid of my home and all my belongings. My job requires me to travel in which they pay for my hotels to stay in. So that means when I get my children they will have to come to my hotel and I'm sorry that is no way for children to spend time with there father. I would rather them able to come to my home where they can run and play, instead of being confined to a hotel for the weekend. So as a father I want to know what the AG has to consider in order, before they up the child support? Don't they have to consider that the father has living expenses to, or do they just not care how the father survives. As long as they get their money. So as far as rights I feel mine are being striped away as far as how I'm supposed to survive and give a better life for my children.

Child support in Texas

I'm the step mother of three. I have been reading stories on the child support laws and I have come to the conclusion that some way both parties have been screwed one way or another. But what I see the most of is the Non Custodial parents that DO THERE PART big or small are getting treated like Crap from the office of the Attorney general. Yes their are men and women that don't do their part and yes they should be punished. But the only way WE as Parents can get the system fixed is to make sure that our voices get heard...NEWSPAPERS,TV,RADIO, and MORE BLOGGING! For example I was in the court room the day my husband divorced his ex, the lady in front of him was getting divorced with children when the judge asked her about child support she said she didn't want it because her soon to be ex didn't work... But low and behold the Attorney General was their to step in and told her to ask for it. In my mind that was BS this women was going to get a divorce not wanting Child Support but the AG stepped in made sure someone was going to be paying his bills as well as the child for the next 18 yrs. Also what pisses me off is how much interest is put on to fathers that have gotten behind for some UNFORESEEN reason, I'm not talking about the ones that have never paid I'm talking about the ones that do there part and fall on bad times and get behind. Most of them people will never get ahead with the interest rates, but the AG won't drop the interest rate because that is how they get their money. Finally to the mothers that don't work and collect a check.... You all need to be BITCH SLAPPED, I mean WHO MADE YOU GOD, THIS WORLD DON"T OWE YOU SHIT! Your children are a gift from GOD. That you USE as a paycheck, or as the AG office thinks our children are CREDIT CARDS (true fact was said) and it makes me sick. I had one friend tell me, when he and his ex broke up the last words out of her mouth was "WELL AT LEAST I GET CHILD SUPPORT OUT OF YOU"!(she doesn't have a job lives of the system) SO WE ALL NEED TO GET OUR VOICES HEARD TO MAKE SURE THAT THE SYSTEM WORKS FOR BOTH PARTIES. 50/50 are responsible for the children doesn't matter who lives with who. So both parties SHOULD BE WORKING TO GIVE THE CHILD A BETTER LIFE, AND THE TEXAS AG NEEDS TO STOP HARASSING THE PEOPLE THAT DO THEIR PART AND GO AFTER THE ONES THAT DON'T!!!!!